creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to quitting, prone to feelings of loneliness, ambivalent of the rules, solitary, daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness, focus on fantasies, acts…
I’m INFJ/P (<1% preference between J and P). The traits above the fold here are super accurate. (If you follow the link, some of the others start to drift off though.) Some highlights:
idealist: results in my perfectionism
loner: somewhat less so than I used to be, but still definitely true.
attracted to sad things: So much yes. For example, my favorite way for a story to end is for the protagonist to sacrifice him or herself. Kind of twisted maybe. Sorrow is strangely beautiful.
avoidant: When I screw up, I’ll own up immediately if I know I can’t evade it, but otherwise I’ll avoid it.
can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings: ohhhh yeah
prone to quitting: If I stumble a little bit in something, in my mind it turns into a slippery slope. I convince myself I’m probably going to fail, so why bother?
prone to feelings of loneliness: Even with my closest friends, I usually have a hard time admitting things and talking about how I feel. It makes it easy to feel isolated even with people who love me. More than anything, I want someone in whom I would confide everything. They’d have to be gentle enough that it felt safe, but strong and forceful enough to pry me out from behind the walls I put up. They’d have to be able to handle the things they found there.
daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness: a lot
focus on fantasies: this should be its own post
(Source: similarminds.com, via soapthief)